[Using the No-Lose Model,] consider some decisions you are now facing. Write down all the positive things that can happen by using either pathway – even if the outcome might not be what you picture.
Learn the concept IT DOESN’T REALLY MATTER by starting with little decisions you face each day. As you ponder which suit to wear to the office, notice that it doesn’t really matter; which restaurant to eat at tonight, it doesn’t really matter; which movie to see, it doesn’t really matter. Each choice simply produces a different experience.
As you approach each goal, bear in mind the Magic Duo - 100% commitment and [acting as if you count] – to help you focus and achieve a sense of fulfillment.
… one of my students argued that if we say yes to everything, we are accepting everything. If we accept everything, then we won’t act to change things that are wrong with this world. I explained to him that saying yes means positive action; saying no means giving up. It is only when we see possibility for change that we can work to effect change. We can say no to the situation as it is, but yes to the possibility for the growth it offers. … Saying yes means getting up and acting on your belief that you can create meaning and purpose in whatever life hands you.
Years ago I heard a great line in a B movie: “Security is not having money; it’s knowing you can do without it.
I am convinced that . . . if we do not consciously and consistently focus on the spiritual part of ourselves, we will never experience the kind of joy, satisfaction, safety, and connectedness we are all seeking.
~ Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. Feel the Fear ... and Do It Anyway