2011.08.18 Quotes "Feel the Fear...and Do It Anyway" / Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. ~ part 2 of 2

The point is that you must make the effort.  So many people sit at home waiting for the phone to ring and wondering why they are always alone.  Nothing is going to come to you - especially in the beginning.  You have to go out and create the kind of support system you want.

[Using the No-Lose Model,] consider some decisions you are now facing.  Write down all the positive things that can happen by using either pathway – even if the outcome might not be what you picture.

Learn the concept IT DOESN’T REALLY MATTER by starting with little decisions you face each day.  As you ponder which suit to wear to the office, notice that it doesn’t really matter; which restaurant to eat at tonight, it doesn’t really matter; which movie to see, it doesn’t really matter.  Each choice simply produces a different experience.

As you approach each goal, bear in mind the Magic Duo - 100% commitment and [acting as if you count] – to help you focus and achieve a sense of fulfillment.

… one of my students argued that if we say yes to everything, we are accepting everything.  If we accept everything, then we won’t act to change things that are wrong with this world.  I explained to him that saying yes means positive action; saying no means giving up.  It is only when we see possibility for change that we can work to effect change.  We can say no to the situation as it is, but yes to the possibility for the growth it offers.  …  Saying yes means getting up and acting on your belief that you can create meaning and purpose in whatever life hands you.

Years ago I heard a great line in a B movie: “Security is not having money; it’s knowing you can do without it.

I am convinced that . . . if we do not consciously and consistently focus on the spiritual part of ourselves, we will never experience the kind of joy, satisfaction, safety, and connectedness we are all seeking.

~ Susan Jeffers, Ph.D.  Feel the Fear ... and Do It Anyway

2011.08.17 Quotes "Feel the Fear...and Do It Anyway" / Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. ~ part 1 of 2

At the bottom of every one of your fears is simply the fear that you can't handle whatever life may bring you.

If you knew you could handle anything that came your way, what would you possibly have to fear?

"Be careful" carries a double message:  "the world is really dangerous out there" ...and... "you won't be able to handle it."  What Mom is really saying, of course, is, "If something happens, I won’t be able to handle it.”

Most of us operate within a zone that feels right, outside of which we are uncomfortable.  ...  for each one of us that zone of comfort is different, but whether we are aware of it or not, all of us - rich or poor, low or high on the totem pole, male or female - make decisions based on the confines of that comfortable space.

They have discovered that security is not having things; it's handling things.

It is important to remember that goals constantly change as you go through life, and you have to keep reassessing them.  The decision you make today might not be the decision you would make five years from now.

[After making a decision]  Throw away your picture.  We all create expectations of what we would like to happen after a decision is made.  The picture in our mind's eye might have served a valuable function in helping to make a decision.  But once the decision is made, let the picture go.

After much consideration, I have come to the conclusion that if you haven't made any mistakes lately, you must be doing something wrong.

~ Susan Jeffers, Ph.D.  Feel the Fear ... and Do It Anyway

2011.08.17 Old Settlers' Days

For jan . . .

2011.08.15 Photo updates

1.

I've posted the scenic vacation photos on Flickr.

Click on the "My Flickr Photostream" widget to see these.

2.

I've created an album on FaceBook for the Mission Trip photos.

If you have a FB account, you can see them here:  DebC - Crow Nation 2011.

3.

I've decided to post the personal photos from the vacation here.

They will be posted on the dates they were taken.

2011.08.11 Crow Mission Trip - a reminder

An orange brought home from Montana.

Instead of a snack food for the flight home,

it has become food for thought.

A flood of memories:

22 people working and living together for a common purpose,

relationship building,

smiles and teasing and card tricks (by Josh),

sharing and learning and serving,

encouragement.

Forever memories.